Here in Bhoomieland we often refer to our ‘inner child’ as a special sapling to be cherished and nurtured. We’ve even shared advice on how to nudge him/her to come out and play – but what about our inner mothers? The mother who cares implicitly about us, but that we tend to overlook or may have completely forgotten about. And just because I’m a mother, doesn’t mean I don’t need one to keep me in check, specially when Thuli turns my day into a chaotic whirl of creative, sticky play-mess.
She’s the voice that calms us when we’re storming around all upset, the arms that pull us closer when we hide away in fear and the cheer that lifts our legs to the finish line. But I have to admit, I often overlook her too and thinking about it now I really could have used her hug in some sticky situations recently!
Harvest Her Qualities
So how can we utilise her from within? For a start, we can be conscious that she is there for us to lean on. No matter who you are, she is the warm voice within that can lift you out of anything. For example, do you give yourself a cheer to get a task done that feels so out of reach at first, or do you keep demotivating yourself until you just give up? A mother would scream your name loudly, her lungs filled with the belief that you can do anything, if you just keep going.
Your Inner Stepmother
Not everyone has a great relationship with his/her mother though. Just look at stepmothers in the classics, Cinderella and Snow White are only two examples and although this may be a clichéd portrayal, what do you do if your inner mother turns on you?
Inner turmoil can cause chaos in our lives. Instead of trusting our instincts, we end up doubting ourselves, but in those times of doubt it’s important to remember that we are balanced inside. That the stepmother is just trying to bring out the natural fear we may feel before a change – facing this fear may help us to better deal with the change. So instead of viewing her as purely wicked, try to see it as her nurturing our fears – so we have no choice but to push through them with courage.
And if you find that your courage takes a while to catch up with you, call on your inner mother to calm you. Remember her soothing words as you try to hide away from moving forward. If you need a regular reminder of the qualities that you can access through her, then come and have a snuggle with me and baby Thuli anytime.
What will your inner mother or inner stepmother do for you today?
Lots of love, Mum xxx